If I asked you what type of person meditates what would you say? Someone who sits on the floor chanting? a new age hippy who wants to reach enlightenment? a Buddhist Monk? Whilst this may be true, the chances are that the average person who meditates looks just like you and me, someone with a busy life and all the stresses that go with it.
Now, if I asked you why they meditated, what might you say? “I don’t know”, “They want to clear their minds”,”They have nothing better to do”? Again, maybe, but let me answer by telling you why I started to meditate. During the time spent with my Black Dog (by now it had grown to the size of a Grizzly bear and insisted on being carried around at all times), I had a whirlwind of thoughts going through my mind, all self-critical, all ultra important, all damaging. I didn’t know how to help myself or how I could stop myself thinking of all the things in the past that I could have done differently, or fearing what the future would hold for me, in essence I wasn’t living as I let the present go by unnoticed.
I’d read that yoga was good for stress and depression, so I managed to carry my Black Dog to a class. There I was introduced to guided relaxation and when I left the class the dog was a little lighter, so I attended a meditation class run by my yoga teacher. I learned that meditation was not about clearing my mind, that would never happen we are human and need to think, but it was about acknowledging my thoughts and letting them pass through whilst noticing and observing my breath, being in the present. After a few sessions I was able to walk the dog out on a lead, it was like I had taken my depression to doggie obedience classes.
So why should you meditate? Life is full of stresses and demands and sometimes we can feel overwhelmed and under huge amounts of pressure, but did you know that this is not just a thought that we can “get over”, it is real, when we are stressed we release chemicals into our brain that prepares us to fight or flight, blood flow is diverted from the brain to the muscles, blood pressure goes up, heart rate increases and if stress levels are elevated over a sustained period of time it can cause stress related illnesses.
All grim news and anyone who is stressed now feels ten times worse, thanks Ang I hear you say, but good news, meditation has been proven to reduce the symptoms of stress. Just as little as 5 minutes a day can have the opposite effect to the fight or flight response, releasing “feel good” chemicals into the brain and helping us to relax.
Don’t believe me? Give it a go, there are many ways you can fit meditation and mindfulness into your day. When things were particularly stressful for me at work I would get to the car park 5 minutes early, turn the engine off and sit quietly with my eyes closed and take a few deep breaths, then return my breathing to a normal rate and count my breaths backwards from 20 to 1, acknowledging any thoughts and returning to count the breath. I would feel calmer and ready for the day rather than starting the day with elevated stress levels after driving to work. You can try this anywhere, if you are doing the washing up relax your shoulders and count your breaths. In the shower, notice how the water feels, the temperature of the water, the smell of the shower gel or shampoo, anything that helps you to be in the present moment.
The important thing to remember is that you give it a go, if you feel the benefits straight away then great, if not don’t worry and don’t give up. It’s called a meditation practice for a reason, your brain is a muscle and the more you train it the stronger it gets.
Your life is yours to live, it is your choice how.
Bye for now friends and enjoy the Easter holidays, see you in two weeks x
Angela